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Photos from November 10, 2013, community forum.
What do We Value?
Small - get to know each other easily • We value open space & conservation land
Individuals can make a difference • High quality of citizenry • Anyone can participate • Support in times of crisis • Sense of Volunteerism • People contribute skills, expertise • Strong education system • Connected to past & good steward of historic resources • We have a Pub! • Welcoming • Nonprofessional government (volunteers)
What Have We Observed?
Egos getting in the way of the common good
We are effective by experiencing aberrant behavior
• We look more partisan and fractured than in the past •
Less dialog, more bullying
Labeling and assuming others’ positions • Willingness to attack and be nasty •
Avoiding some discussions & let a vote decide is not a good decision-making •
Questioning design to disparage the debate
People participating feel attacked
What is the Impact?
Criticism of volunteers
Lack of compromise
Absence of meaningful conversation
With large issues we don’t hear from people until it’s time to vote • Things break down in smaller venues (other than Town Meeting) •
Not checking each other
When we don’t resolve the current issue it gets harder to solve future issues • Fewer volunteers; few VOICES •
Incivility undermines collaboration
Don’t move forward • What’s the effect on kids? •
People get left out of the discourse
Preservation is suffering
What would we Like to See?
It is okay to apologize •
Guidelines/rules “play a card” when things get heated • FACTS •
Begin with the end in mind - goal is also civil behavior •
Post civility guidelines •
Self-police, don’t make the leader do it •
What are the compromises? •
Openly discuss values and LISTEN to each other •
Process and outcome focus •More reflection! • Majority rules, but respect the minority